Iceberg-tip (Hummock) Vs Iceberg-bottom (Bummock)

Above the waterline, we display the emotions that are readily apparent to others—happiness, anger, sadness, and joy which are visible emotions which only represent a fraction of what lies beneath.

Our underlying emotions are the ones that shape our thoughts, behaviours, and interactions in many ways. These submerged emotions such as fear, insecurities, shame, grief, and a myriad of other feelings that we may choose to keep hidden may haunt us at times.

Complexity of inner emotions

There is a complex interplay between our outer emotions and our deep inner emotions, and vulnerabilities that remain concealed from casual observation. It is challenging to address these as we don’t show these emotions even to the near and dear ones and when exhibited we may be identified as a whole new person.

We must understand the importance of acknowledging and exploring our submerged emotions.

Masked emotions

To navigate social situations or protect ourselves from judgment or vulnerability, we often wear masks—facades that shield our true emotions from others.

These masks can be driven by societal expectations, fear of rejection, or a desire to maintain a sense of control.

They allow us to present a version of ourselves that we believe will be accepted and valued, even if it doesn’t reflect our authentic emotions.

Just as an iceberg’s visible tip can give the impression of stability and strength, our outward expressions may not always reflect the true depths of our emotional state. We may smile despite feeling sadness or project confidence while experiencing doubt.

These masks serve as a means of self-preservation, concealing our innermost emotions from others.

Vulnerable yet courageous!

By diving beneath the surface, we can gain a deeper understanding of our own emotional landscape.

It requires vulnerability and courage to acknowledge and express our true feelings, even if they deviate from societal expectations or challenge our sense of control.

Doing so allows us to embrace our authenticity, fostering genuine connections and a richer emotional life.

Find the ’empath’ in you

You’re not the only person who has these hidden or masked emotions. So, it is important we recognise that everyone has a hidden ’emotional world’ beneath their outward expressions. Encourage the ’empath’ in us to look beyond surface-level interactions.

By cultivating empathy, we can create spaces where individuals feel safe to remove their masks, fostering deeper connections and promoting emotional well-being.

“Life's mysteries lie beneath the surface, waiting to be discovered" -- John Doe --

The iceberg analogy offers a powerful lens through which to explore human emotions and the masks we wear. It reminds us that there is often more to individuals’ emotional experiences than what meets the eye. By acknowledging and embracing the submerged emotions within ourselves and others, we can navigate the complexities of human connection with authenticity, empathy, and understanding.